How to Transform

Bullying

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Bullying makes you stupid. When someone bullies you, you can literally feel your brain power draining away. “I'll blow your head off,” the bully continues, leaving you no idea how long this harangue has been going on. “Turn around.” You know you're about to be robbed, and as he takes your wallet and ID cards, you put your own canoe in the water: “Oh, yeah?” followed somewhere downstream by, “Losing my name.”

The best way to Stop Bullying is to Transform Bullying by saying something back. It changes the dynamic. Look at the following verbal attacks, and notice how Nothing Changes if you don't say anything back. “Just ignore them” is wacky advice that doesn't change anything.

Here are the same five attacks, this time with targeted responses:

Visit the Backtalktionary and don't miss “A Bully Is a Parasite” @ nightturn.com.

Introduction To

The Supernatural

People are sleepwalking backward following their history & memories of that history, again, walking backward. What we really need is a self-testing life force slipping naturally into the future & into the supernatural. For the trip you want to bring intelligence and memory with you, keeping in mind there's no intelligence in either hatred or indifference. The supernatural is permeating throughout your body from outside you, and people don't feel it. There's something luminous behind you, so turn around, sense the right side back of your neck. Take a trade packet as soon as it dries out. What's going down? It's close enough to having been there.

Every time you hear the word, “How's,” say either “Effortless” or “Flawless,” or nothing at all.

Every time you hear the word, “it,” say either “That's a switch” or “No big deal,” or nothing at all.

Every time you hear the word, “going,” say either “Looks like it,” or “Changes you,” or both together, or nothing at all.

Thus we have ...

For more of this trip into the supernatural, :: c-luminous.com || super-wagon.com.

No Beginning To

A Claim

Many people are like drowning, and to stay afloat, they pull someone down to be below them. Here are forty-six responses for breaking free & getting away!

& To Scream Out

The Window

Tricky Anxious

Moments

To Draw Down

Tension

A Cat Can't Be

Friend-Zoned

Because a cat can't successfully become cut off from its own current of libido.

It's always been your current of libido. It never has been theirs.

VICTORY!

Loose Ends

Revisit the Backtalktionary and don't miss “A Bully Is a Parasite” @ nightturn.com.

“The Wake of the No-Clue Canoe” @ c-wake.com for WHEN THINGS GO WRONG.

And thewaterscale.com, which plants us firmly in the Supernatural.

“Eighty Super Polite Ways to Say NO! Late at Night” @ SpiritandConnection.com.

Transformation

In Action

In many ways, feeling separated from the torrent of the life force is like feeling separated from a school of fish. Intellectually, you know the school of fish exists, though you can't mathematically prove it! Additionally, as long as you're above the surface of the sea, you can easily be swept away by fierce storms & emotional weather, and even in calm seas, you often feel you're being nibbled to death by ducks! Across unsettling horizons you can spot floating islands of plastic garbage, corporate ocean liners, debt ceilings, and the Internet Bozosphere, being populated by anonymous haters and gutter snipes.

So you figure, why not dive? Slicing through the planar surface of the sea, the Realm of the Intellect, you rediscover what you knew as a child, what's actually profound, the Realm of Depth. The first thing you learn to do is hold your breath, and let Intuition bubble up. So there you are, below the surface, with no school of fish! Well, maybe you need to develop a whole new Organ of Perception, and to learn how to silence your mind, do less, and drink from one of the two reeds which magically make their appearance. According to Jalaludin Rumi, “Two reeds drink from the same stream. One grows to be hollow; the other becomes a sugar cane.”

Then you make your choice, to stay up on the surface, without actually flying, or to submerge once more into the torrent of life & to look for the damn fucking fish! Without annoying them too much.

It has to do with an ability that grows in you – Shut one thing down and something else takes its place.

The thing to notice about these last eight attacks is: 1. They're Not Big On Details. 2. They hit you in the imagination: “It could be ANYTHING!” 3. They dwell in a mud flat called, The Vague. 4. Did you notice the duck?

A Broken Heart

The Perils

Of Territory

Once you notice the healing properties of the Supernatural, you can get a little carried away. Frankly, it's a little like the night sky. There's plenty! Enough real magic to go around.

A Helpful Force,

A Playful Force

What at the same time is a broad force fostering community, is also an isolated force that fucks around with other people. So be careful! Mean people can't stand it.

Unflipping The

Negative Bird

There's a trick. You're sailing along with large horizons, fair breezes, and a smooth-running engine, and someone suddenly flips you into the gullet of negative emotions by saying, “don't,” “not,” or “doesn't.”

To restore the natural order, just say, “We're in luck!”

THE WALL

( I'm hopeful! )

When you show up at the Wall, up against the Supernatural, you begin to notice the wall itself has begun to accelerate into the Future, you along with it.

What a hoot! You don't have to actually go through it. What you do have to take along with you, though, is the Trinity of Intelligence :: Virility, Fertility & Versatility. None of this meditation stuff. An insipid kind of empty.

TRUTH? For my mother it was rain or shine. For my father it was absence or presence or presents! For my stepfather it was sink or swim. For my sisters it was follow the bouncing ball. On the radio it was music or snow day! For my classmates it was rich or poor. On the bus it was black or white. In church it was good or bad. For ice-people it was stupid or unforgiving. To the deepest parts of myself it's always been day or night.

Being pulled into the future by some kind of life force is everything. People are distracted from this by irrational tricks from other people, and by attempting to use this life force looking backward, to pull up the past :: Worrying, Arguing & Complaining. Nicht, nicht!

STOP! Numbers

Not Allowed!

Muddy Waters

If you don't know what to say, it's because someone has muddied the waters. If they hadn't muddied the waters, the waters would be clear.

If you don't know what to say, you may feel distress. If you feel considerable distress, it's called anxiety. If you feel considerable, considerable distress, it's called neurosis.

People can go on and on muddying the waters, pretending they don't understand a word of what you're saying, hearing, thinking, feeling or seeing, so it's healthy to be able to scream, “CONSIDERABLE!” or to mutter, “Impunity.” until they do.

It clears the waters.

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Life Is So Stupid

It's Mysterious

You can't really give unscreened classes in Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense because often the perpetrators of verbal violence are sitting in the front row! I don't mind offering a few tips, though, because I'm a diplomat, not a doormat.

“Introduce me to your girlfriend!” —Next time! I can endure. “What's your name?” —My friends call me Yamita. “Got a cigarette?” —Next to nothing. Reserved. “Do you believe in God?” —Doesn't do any harm. Epic. “Are you a child molester?” —Poor kids. How little we know. “You're a monster!” —At least for now. Dangerous. “What's the damage?” —Anywhere positive. Survive! “He's a weasel.” —In brief. Not have the power. “Oh, I'm just a housewife.” —Natural. Intelligence. “Remember me?” —What changed? Look at you! “How ya' doing?” —Lucky me! No one killed me. “Let me use your iPad.” —Afraid not. You'll be first up. “What's your cell number?” —A well of deep sadness. “Are you two an item?” —Complicated. Get to the point. “Are you gay?” —Easier. The other guy. “Are you on the rag?” —Narrowly. It's a mystery. “I was just curious.” —The pious mastermind! “You stupid cow!” —I hope not. Not at all. “Who's this fine creature?” —Hands off! No supervision! “Raise your hand if you mindlessly raise your hand or don't raise your hand whenever someone suggests you raise your hand.” —Bullies thrive where bullies rule. “Think outside the box!” —From the deep. Territory. “Don't listen to me.” —Touch & go. Don't have to.

NAVIGATION

Pleasure and privilege do not derive from poverty, wealth or territory.

Insight, poetry, the dreams you have at night, and a certain kind of intelligence can take you there (to pleasure & privilege).

Things have to make sense. You have to be able to describe the details in meaningful words. Discourse adhering to the vague, whether in slogans, euphemisms, or lengthy diatribe, is a real problem. “Go that way! No! Over there!”

Many people use a kind of pseudo-ignorance as a weapon against intelligence. They often express dissatisfaction in terms of mumbling and vague, hip slang. YOU DON'T HAVE TO ANSWER TO AN IDIOT.

There is a kind of force pulling you into the future easily perceived with intuition, bodily sensation, and intelligence, provided you are not too awash in recreational drugs. It is not a Push-Force from anything in history or in the past. It is a Pull-Force from the future. Artificial intelligence will never grasp it.

It is a Pull-Force which draws the pyramids to us in the present.

Pyramids ==> Pull-Force ==> The Present ==> Depth ==> The Future.

The sign of the cross is “X marks the spot.”

You want to learn how to bring your memories, raw talent, and intelligence into a position to become overcome by this force. It draws you into it. It seems like magic, coincidence or the kind of supernatural communicated by ancient fairy tales & dreams at night. People who do not know how to whittle themselves into a shared understanding of weak and impoverished people all around them are totally blind to this force.

People who use stupidity as a weapon against clarity won't make it, either, and you really should steer clear of them. Don't worry. They'll disappear in their own fog, fall asleep.

PLAYFULNESS

There's a part of my mind that plays with me. Actually it's a “two.” It's two little whisper voices which surface from time to time, whispering to each other at ten- to forty-second intervals. They're my channel into intuition or something like that. I simply observe them, jotting their words down from time to time.

Often their whispers coexist with a tingly sensation in the center of my chest.

One of them whispered, “Seamless,” as I was waking up about a week ago, so I wrote it down and wondered if that was a word I could use in my Backtalktionary, then decided against it. “Seamless” reminded me of a plastic sheeting covering car upholstery, and the association was unpleasant, so I let it rest.

Then today one of them whispered, “The flaw,” which totally caught my attention because I'm something of a perfectionist, which I use to my advantage in computer programming, which I haven't done in quite some time. Again, those skills are coming to fruition in the Backtalktionary.

Suddenly the other whisper voice literally overwrote “The flaw” with “Flawless.” I told you these two whisper voices are playful.

Suddenly I realized this was the missing link in the “How's the steak, sir?” problem. Everyone knows the “How's the steak, sir?” problem, so I won't go into it. Anyway, here it is! The missing link.

Standing Up

To Authority

Little people with the compassion of ants or fleas try to create bogus power with a combination of praise and shame :: by providing key information (praise) or by withholding necessary resources (shame) :: It's called Power Sharing. Their machinations create the Illusion of Wicked Times.

Begin by responding, “It's insane!” Then speak the truth, whatever it is.

Once an SFMTA Taxi Investigator left me a message requiring me to make an appointment to see him. You can respond by leaving the message, “I'm looking forward to participating in your investigation.”

On another occasion an airport police officer raced up and mumbled, “See anything in there you like?” simply because he didn't know what to make of me clearing my throat and spitting into a nearby trash can. For me, it kind of made sense to tip the lid & spit in a trash can, and his assault caught me by surprise, so I asked him to repeat himself. “See anything in there you like?”

Had I had my wits together, I would have loudly proclaimed, “It's a bargain!”

SKITTISHNESS

There's a human condition that lies just at the borderline of the Supernatural that can best be described as “skittishness.” It can easily be interpreted as rejection, as when a bus driver tries to run you over rather than let you get on the bus.

I've seen it in a woman who gets as close to you as pushing to stand directly beside you on the down escalator at a subway platform, then runs off at the bottom, as if you're going to follow her. I don't follow skittishness. I don't follow rejection, either. The main idea is to wait three days, and to reassure yourself with the words, “Into the future of economy,” followed closely by, “Off the stream!”

These words refer to your own life.

The main idea is to not let anyone trick you into leaping into the pool of rejection. The words you tell yourself are important here, because a misunderstanding can lead a person into suicide. All these observations here, and the feelings involved, are of a quite temporary nature, whereas death and suicide are permanent.

Skittishness is as intimate as a toilet seat tissue paper.

The Village Of The

State Of America

An Explosion

Of Small Talk

Sometimes, when you venture small distances from your home, the world can become an explosion of small talk, peppered with “you ... you ... you ... it!” The main thing to remember is that the world feels deep hurt, for some reason, and to hold your own against this onslaught, it's nice to remember, “Everyone does!” and “Diligently,” and “All right!” until everything settles down. Little doggies, right? All excited.

How To Nudge

Things Along By

“Thinking Things”

I'm personally acquainted with a bully. The day I pretended within my own brain that his sister is “hot,” he began to act human. No more stalking or lurking. —Your sister is hot! Many times you can nudge things along by simply thinking things. Even things you don't perceive. Believe me, in outside physical reality, his sister is not hot!

By thinking things with deliberation, you can change things.

My teacher used to say, “The reason you are more like yourself when you imitate another person is that you don't carry your self-hatred over into the imitation.”

You can do all this on the inside. You don't have to be the guy who always knows what to say. You can simply nudge things along by thinking things. A thought here, a thought there.

It's Easy To

Talk Back

To Inner Voices

Otherwise they can keep you up at night, flood you with fear, give you insomnia.

A LOUD INNER VOICE is often a memory or dream of your mother, from when you were very young.

Two days ago a loud inner voice appeared in a sudden crack in my consciousness, saying, “THE JUNK HAS STARTED AGAIN!” Adrenaline shot through my body until I slowly remembered my mother, in one of my earliest memories, complaining how I wouldn't stop scattering toys all over my play room. Her solution was to cordon off the play room, with the toys on one side, me on the other.

Now why should a kid NOT SCATTER TOYS, I ask you that?

Burning Off

Self-Hatred

La-la! Just when you're feeling fine, a parting shot: “And stay looking that young!”

The most common parting shot is, “Have a good one!”

The human mind processes opposites.

As the word, “good” is being grasped, its meaning is being “conditioned” by its opposite, which in this case is “bad.”

To the mind, that parting shot is being conditioned as both, “Have a good one!” and, slightly behind, “Have a bad one!”

The way out is to consciously alter the dynamic of the parting shot by “automatically” inserting, “On my way!” In this way, the human mind doesn't have to waste any time exploring “hidden meanings.”

I would put a lot of energy into crying out, “—Well, okay! There's hope!”

“The conceptual value of a word is always conditioned by the word which expresses its opposite.” —J. Huizinga in Homo Ludens, 1950. Let Artificial Intelligence process that!

Networks Of False

Appearances

From the time I was a toddler I've been puzzled by False Appearances. Sitting around a campfire I saw none. In music and in poetry I've seen little. In dreams and intuition I keep learning.

I've also come to realize that an honest conversation drinks on clairvoyance. When two people meet, and quickly establish commonalities and differences, this process simply couldn't proceed on the face of things, that the colors and textures of the conversations have had to run deeper, and this deepness is clairvoyance.

Tonight I had a conversation with my housemate about all this, and the great puzzle of total strangers in my taxicab practically screaming, “HOW LONG HAVE YOU LIVED IN THE BAY AREA?” No one ever attacked me this way when I was a child. No one ever cried out, “How long have you been working hard and doing your homework?”

Maybe I can expand on the word, “CONSIDERABLE!” My teacher used to say, “... not to be disruptive, but to be organic about the whole thing.”

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