There's an interval, say two seconds, between a cognitive stimulus,
and an emotional response. For instance, I recently heard a school
girl describing her love for performing in grade-school dance recitals.
She started dancing in first grade then the thrill of
the lights! One day she happened to overhear two fourth-grade
girls talking about her. "I don't want to be her partner,"
one was whispering to the other. (1.) Two seconds later, the
implications of this rejection hit her, she burst into tears, ran
home, and didn't dance for two years. That's what actually happened.
(2.) After two years, and some counseling from adults who suggested
she learn to "Just let it slide off," she returned to
dance and wrote an essay about the experience, which I heard her
reciting on a radio broadcast. (3.) Let's return to those two
seconds, between stimulus ("I don't want to be her partner!")
and response (Bursting into tears, running home, and abandoning
dance for two years) (3a.) Let's not even consider that
the fourth-grade girl might have been reluctant to "be her
partner" because she didn't feel skillful enough, that she'd
suffer by comparison. (3b.) Let's turn to, How can a person
"Just Let It Slide Off" with only two seconds to do
it? (4.) "God is a little girl locked
inside a closet, and when you understand this, it hits you right
between the eyes." God (the little girl locked inside
a closet) has infinite abilities; She understands everyone's feelings
at once; She knows there are always other partners, you just wait;
She knows people feel small and weak and helpless (because She does,
being locked inside a closet!); knows people have limited social
skills; knows you can always say something rude or funny or totally
inappropriate: "They know! They know who will fit in!"
When God feels hurt, She tries to understand the real source of
the pain (knowing or perceiving that the pain may have nothing to
do with Her personally) It may simply be, She couldn't see There's
Hurt Inside Everyone. "So embarrassing!" (Source: