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Taunts, Insults or Attacks

Codewords Inside Aggressive "Tricks"

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CLINIC

PATIENT

DIAGNOSTIC

Patient refers to it as stargate-oh-four

A Bully.4

Coercion.3

 

TOOLSET

INFORMAL FALLACY

 

—Don't pin that on me!

—Sure, boss!

—Very different.

—That kind of jump. On & on.

Moxie's

Disease

 

Condescension — Most people are terrified they'll say the wrong thing; see what happens if you say the wrong thing. You have to get your priorities straight — first, that you're alive; second, that you say the right thing.

 

NOTES TO MYSELF

PSYCHOLOGICAL AGE

CLASS

[loaded for bear] - Fully prepared for action, ready for any possibility, and spoiling for a fight, he or she is a Chocolate Bully - Often it's well-rehearsed family dynamics being brought into the light of day - In their minds, or in reality, they're picking on their little brothers and sisters - At best, it's like witnessing a soap opera - at worst, it's getting sucked in - "Her [the bully's] simple rule was: 'If you can't say something negative, don't say it at all.'" (–David Pogue, referring to a former client – a serial abuser) - People try to trick you, and laugh at you when you believe them - It's all honesty - If you have to lie, how can you learn anything?

The Age of Domination, ages 0-3

Murder

 

 
 
 
 
 

Exactly what someone said [or did]
... usually not very original.

The thoughts of a "bad child"
... to free your mind again.

TRICKS

WINGS

IDEAS

[hostility]

—Very different.

—Far be it from me.

"Thanks for sharing that with us."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—It's hard enough to pay for my child's education.

"This guy's ability to take everything as a personal affront but also to want to be perceived as taking it like an adult ... mind-blowing." [Link from ilXor.com message board]

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Makes me feel like the X-ray man ... Pull the other one – It has bells on it.

"You cut me off!" [From a ditzy bicyclist]

—Very different.

—We're all drips from the same cloud.

"I always feel I'm faking it."

—Very different.

With a short temper! ... Every atom in our body was once a part of a star.

"Passive witnesses to such behavior – other students, teachers or parents – who do nothing are coconspirators in the bullying behavior." (–Mark D. Smaller, Director, Analytic Service to Adolescents Program, Morton Alternative School, Chicago)

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—What did the Chinese say? One order leads to ten thousand ... It's like making holes in the ocean ... You can just make gestures.

«Defend friend bully rude comeback school»

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Oh, don't let the pastor hear that!

"He could pick up some tips from you then."

—Sure, boss!

—What I don't understand is, why aren't they all multimillionaires?

"You speak Japanese? Does that help with tips?"

—Very different.

—Could I have one just to see what they're like?

["I do research on mean people, rude people, stupid people, phony people and bullies."] "Any tips?"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—They manipulate people for power ... You have to see the effect ... It hurts! ... They're tricking people ... They're not really tricking people, because they don't know what they're doing ... I say dodge 'em ... I say get out of their way ... Why should I let them hurt me? ... Why should I allege myself to scoundrels? ... Drop out! ... That's what I'm doing ... It's my body, it's my life, it's my choice ... It's just so obvious, you know? ... Less really is more.

"How come you don't want to talk to me?"

—Don't pin that on me!

—If someone starts the music, you don't have to dance.

"Tell me how it is." [The olallieberry jam you are buying]

—Very different.

—Would you like to change places?

"Let me know."

—Very different.

—It's golden.

"I just want to make something perfectly clear with you: We're not friends."

—Very different.

—Pushing flies out the window is easier than catching them.

«Verbal defense strategies for children»

—Very different.

—"Give people a break!" ... Just be a little careful ... Be frightened ... A bully is a frightened person who is bullying other people to feel less frightened ... It's weird. If you consciously try to feel frightened, you won't be frightened ... Watch out for unconscious fear, which would unconsciously "activate you" and make you engage with the bully on their terms ... An adult can simply feel frightened ... "Give people a break, my god! They're working like dogs!"

"Oh, and I suppose I don't?"

—Very different.

—At least you know what you're doing.

"You don't know about it, so shut up, turn around, and sit down!"

—Sure, boss!

—It's unspeakable.

"I'll wait for you outside." [Chocolate bully]

—Sure, boss!

—If you wait that long.

[Someone about to mug you near an alleyway]

—Sure, boss!

—ICY FIRE! ICY FIRE! ICY FIRE!

"I don't know what you're talking about there."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—You just have to be careful.

"We're not the same, O.K.? This is you [—she holds her left hand low, parallel to the table—], this is me [—her right hand flies up above her head—]."

—Very different.

—Parts of your mind are trying to submerge you.

"My boss hates me, everyone hates me, I'm a total failure."

—Very different.

You have no restraint ... If you know what to say, you get out of fights ... It all comes from when you were a baby ... "Your mother knows more than you do and always will!"

"Daddy said it was a secret."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—I don't want any warm interpersonal experiences with a four-year-old girl.

["I had a hunch you weren't going to be long."] "You know me."

—Very different.

—How many toys do you have?

"If you're faced with an irrational rant, who can blame you for falling apart?"

—Very different.

—They could be on another planet ... Well, you feel responsible in a way ... That's why you're such a nice person ... Maybe I'll do that.

"Professor [James J.] Gross, at Stanford, outlines five methods [for emotional regulation]. They are situation avoidance (steer clear of the boss); situation modification (turn your desk so you don't have to look at the boss); attention deployment (when the boss invites you in for a chat, look at the wall, a picture, anything but his face); cognitive change (he's a jerk anyway, what do I care what he thinks?); and finally, repression (concentrate on keeping your face still instead of blinking furiously or twitching in anger)." (–Kate Zernike, "Never Let Them See You Sweat," The New York Times, "Week in Review," 11-30-2008)

—Sure, boss!

—Don't get angry! ... Set the bullying aside for a while ... Why not? ... There's always people beyond human frailties ... I see a hill covered with snow ... I see a man hiding behind a rock ... You're very bright ... Don't buy a house with someone ... You'll lose money ... Why reduce yourself to the level of a moron? ... Life isn't that simple ... I would remember that, too ... Why do you feel frightened when someone is nice to you? ... Furious beyond belief ... So are we all! ... Very skilled ... Especially once you play! .... You don't hear many people talking that way, huh? ... Beat at your own game ... I doubt it ... Most people are really civilized ... (1.) simplicity; (2.) playfulness; (3.) doing nothing; (4.) being a decent person; (5.) being yourself.

"I bet you get a chance to use Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense a lot."

—Don't pin that on me!

—People switch from being jovial to hostile at the drop of a hat.

"I could use that with Steve here."

—Don't pin that on me!

—Are you going to cut off his ear? Do you want a trophy?

"What are you talking about?"

—Sure, boss!

—I just can't resist perfection.

["Did not!" "Did, too!" "Did not!"] "Did, too!"

—Sure, boss!

—Mistakes are what make great art.

"You talkin' to me?"

—Very different.

—Don't rush me! ... I slept my way through night school ... Why fuss?

"Don't talk to me, okay?"

—Very different.

—It really is scary! ... You and me, babe, how 'bout it? ... She's lucky people fall for that shit, because a lot of people wouldn't, you know?

"Well, don't just stand there like a mannequin. I'm not paying you $25 an hour to just stand there. Go inside." [One of David Pogue's adventures, reported in a nytimes.com subscriber's e-mail, April 26, 2007]

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Don't you know about stars?

"Not there, not there! You'll get dirt on the carpet! Put it out there in the pantry. Have some respect for people's things!"

—Sure, boss!

—That's star quality.

"Don't do it yourself! How do you expect me to learn if you do everything for me? Don't treat me like I'm some kind of idiot!"

—Very different.

—Seems boring, but it isn't.

"How should I know how to turn it on? If I knew how to use the computer already, I wouldn't be paying you $25 an hour, now would I?"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—They just blossom.

"Hi, Richard!" [Pointedly not looking at you]

—Very different.

—I wouldn't let just anyone do this.

"Hi, Richard!" [Pretending that you're "pals," and it's by no means your fault that you're not]

—Don't pin that on me!

—Work harder!

"He makes me laugh."

—Very different.

—The scoundrel.

"Don't play stupid with me!"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Because if you look like a monkey, you'll never get a job.

"Tell me that to my face."

—Very different.

—Every five minutes that's something else.

"Sounds like me."

—Very different.

—When people are desperate, then they do it.

"You're embarrassing me."

—Very different.

—Because of our foreign policy.

"Do you hate me?"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—I got me own racket.

"You're going to hate me for this."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—What do you need a mother for?

"So, you'll never talk to me again?"

—Very different.

—Very refined.

"Nobody likes me."

—Very different.

—It may be my severe hatred of my mother's living room furniture.

"I find it difficult to understand, too." [Taxi1010]

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Why figure it out?

"It's just my way of saying that the site [taxi1010] isn't coherent to me."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—If you get caught up in it, you're lucky.

"What about me?"

—Very different.

—That sounds like a song.

"Tell me about yourself."

—Very different.

—Lock up your money!

"You should stand outside and say, 'Coffee here! Coffee here! It's all about me!'"

—Very different.

—Or even feel bad.

"GIVE ME THE PHONE!"

—Sure, boss!

—She's not going off the deep end – She's just mean.

"It's all about you." [Sarcastically]

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—He had his wife in a tower because she was hopelessly insane.

"Don't kiss me now."

—Very different.

—I think your wish is going to come true.

"Well, don't help me."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—If you have someone to help you, it's twice as bad, because they never do anything right.

"It isn't easy to be me."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—No matter what stage you're in, it's right for something.

"Everyone hates me. The world is against me. I hate it!"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—Why should I identify with people who hate the human condition when I can identify with the human condition?

"Help me, I'm going fucking crazy."

—Sure, boss!

—Woof! Woof!

"Who's your daddy?"

—Very different.

—St. Louis is pretty good – It's a pretty good team.

"Say Uncle!"

—Don't pin that on me!

—You don't need to throw yourself into the fires of abandonment.

["Are you from Vietnam?"] "Do I look Vietnamese?"

—Very different.

—Nothing's bothering you.

["Are you from Columbia?"] "Do I look like someone from Columbia?" [It turns out they're from Poland]

—Very different.

—What a world!

"I'm scared to drive with you."

—Very different.

—It doesn't scare me.

[Someone whacking themselves on the forehead]

—Don't pin that on me!

—Whatever you get going, you've got to get out of it and stop.

"You're trying too hard."

—Very different.

—I don't think so that much.

"I guess to you, you'd like it because it would be a challenge."

—Very different.

—I can't help it – It's in my nature.

"Don't start with me, young man!"

—Sure, boss!

—Don't even think about it.

"You think too hard."

—Sure, boss!

—Nobody ever told me that before.

"Was that too hard for you?" [After you've backed out of a Mexican standoff]

—Very different.

—I was only born yesterday.

"As far as I'm concerned, this is over."

—Don't pin that on me!

—You have to know when to quit, and when to take your time.

"Don't work too hard!"

—Sure, boss!

—That's all you can do is just keep hammering away – I'm a stagehand.

"You're too good for me."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—It's like when you steal at work, and your hands start sweating.

"This is too good for the likes of us!"

—Sure, boss!

—People have a right to live.

"What a surprise!"

—Very different.

—I don't think it's bad at all.

"Surprise!"

—Very different.

—I can only hope.

"You look great – What a surprise."

—Very different.

—It's not that hard, is it?

"I don't want to be associated with the bathroom." [To a sales executive from zoom-media.com]

—Very different.

—You know, good mothers carry extra diapers in the trunk.

"Why don't you study French or German instead?"

—Very different.

—It's another way you can bring your knowledge to another country.

"I'm being mean, Steve."

—Very different.

—It's not that.

"Stop being an Internet failure."

—Very different.

—That's what religion is.

"Aw, too bad!"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—There are so many things you can do.

"That's too bad."

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—I'm going to be careful what I say around you.

"Too bad!"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—You can't see the woods through the trees.

"It's foolish to think you can get away with that."

—Very different.

—You have a lot of responsibility.

"You're not worried someone will take it?"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—When will you have time?

"That's a low blow."

—Very different.

—I'm smart enough to know when someone's trying to get me to hate myself, and I won't do it!

"Can I have a dollar?" [From a man walking by, addressing you from behind your back]

—Don't pin that on me!

—Don't worry about money.

"Can I have a dol-lar?"

—Don't pin that on me!

Adios amiga!

"Give me one more for a little dessert." [From a beggar you just gave a dollar]

—Don't pin that on me!

—Who wants to go there? ... You can sit in your house and smoke ... There's a window you'll never close ... Not even the priests know that.

"What in the hell are you talking about?"

—Very different.

—Pyramus and Thisbe.

"You don't have any friends you can talk to about these things?"

—Very different.

—If you don't take your time, in time you will have no time.

"You don't care about anybody's feelings but your own."

—Very different.

—The more the merrier!

"I have absolutely no idea what this site is all about, and I'm afraid to dig any deeper."

—Very different.

—All the stars come out at night.

"That's something you care about."

—Very different.

—The child comes first.

"You will speak only when spoken to. You will follow orders without question."

—Very different.

—The devil will think you're his own.

"Servants should not aim above their station ... Rich man in his castle, poor man at his gate."

—Very different.

—Anything interesting for me?

"Excuse me!" [Translation: Get out of my way, even though you're not blocking the aisle or anything]

—Very different.

—I knew there wasn't an easy way.

"I have it narrowed down to two choices." [Not telling you what those two choices are]

—Very different.

—Almost done.

"Sucker!"

—That kind of jump. On & on.

—And there'll be a present for you ... after the program.

"I'll send you the bill."

—Sure, boss!

—It's a great hardship.

"The bathroom is being painted now."

—Very different.

—Now I'm beginning to have faith in you guys.

"Do you want to use the bathroom?"

—Very different.

—You're playing with fire!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

REFLECTIONS

 
 
 
 
 

25-OCT-2014.

 

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As follows

CODE WORDS: about, affront, avoidance, bathroom, being, [bicyclist], bill, carpet, castle, challenge, choices, coconspirators, Columbia, comeback, concerned, daddy, deduction, deployment, dessert, dollar, faced, falling, faking, foolish, gate, hi, [hostility], hour, instead, irrational, lives, low, mannequin, me, mind-blowing, modification, [mug], nickname, orders, outside, pantry, passive, perceived, perfectly, rant, repression, scared, self-defense, servants, sharing, situation, Sparky, spoken, station, Steve, stingy, strategies, sucker, suppose, surprise, tips, too, [topless], uncle, Vietnamese, [whacking], witnesses, worried

 

IV
Aquarius
"Water bearer"

—That kind of jump. On & on.