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Patient refers to it as stargate-two-one

A Busybody.1

Veiled Hatred.2





—Someone must.

—Very mysterious. No idea.

Many options.

—And more!




a Fortiori Argument —
(With Stronger Force)
This argument claims that if something is true about a notorious, unusual, or relatively rare case, then it must be true, with stronger force, in the relatively mainstream case.





[hindrance & vindictiveness] - They withhold salient facts until the last minute (Perhaps making them up!), in an effort to derail you, or throw you off your case - In the rare form, they're trying to run you off the road, murder you, or take you completely out of the picture, seeing you as a possible threat to their machismo or potency, based upon a weird synchronicity with your libidinous energy, or glance into your psyche - In the mainstream case, they're trying to dismiss you or characterize you as impotent and ineffectual, based upon a small fraction of your knowledge or behavior - You begin to realize their parents are somehow in competition with your parents - Putting on airs, they used to call it - Pretending to be something they're not (all-powerful and omniscient).

The Age of Attention, ages 4-7




Exactly what someone said [or did]
... usually not very original.

The thoughts of a "bad child"
... to free your mind again.





Many options.

—See the essay below, entitled, "Sarcasm as a Weapon of Mass Destruction."


—Very mysterious. No idea.

—Are we talking about observations or beliefs? It's an important distinction. In a conversation two people can partake in an exchange of observations without inciting argument. Alternatively, in an exchange of beliefs, one person dominates another (transferring the interaction into one of control with the belief "I've got you under my thumb"), which makes all the more sense, since from the beginning they were in a minor rage with some highfalutin aim to control you. Try not to take the bait. For a slightly different slant, see the essay below, entitled, "Argument."

"Some verbal response suggestions from a taxi driver - Non-escalating verbal self defence" [Link from]

Many options.

—There's appropriate releases.

"A fun concept, but not enough real content for my taste."

Many options.

—I'll have to work on that ... It's the cherry on top!

[A gangster or thug coming after you]

Many options.

—Big time! ... Much happier!

"You know what I mean?"

Many options.

—A series of signals converging on a meaning ... Painful feelings.

"Can't you be serious?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—Deadly serious.

"You're always so serious all the time."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—I'm afraid you've misjudged me – It's the design of what to say to anybody who tries to ruin the beauty of your life.

"Try not to overthink it."

Many options.

—The more you understand how you attack yourself, the more you stop, and the more other people stop.

"You overthink everything and when it's something that's really important, you don't think at all!"

—Someone must.

—Let me be the judge.

"If you can't do it [run around naked, or switch all your clothes with a friend] when you're a kid, when can you do it, you know?" (–Dr. Robert Kohlbrenner, quoted in "When Do They Need a Fig Leaf? – Children Like to Strip Down, But Not Everyone Approves," by Julie Scelfo, The New York Times, 16 July 2009)

Many options.

Wow! What a kid! ... The night is young ... And whatnot! ... She's just had it with grownups ... Very modern ... Tight as the bark on a tree! ... People have tutors – Piano teacher, tennis coach, cheap films ... Why not mind tutors? ... "You don't want to run around all the time like a little doggie!"

"Wilmington is a terrible place!"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—When you were there.

"We sent a man to the moon, so surely we can design a safe car."

—And more!

—For all YOU know.

"If the Simpson case is your idea about jurisprudence in California, it only confirms what I've been saying – the whole country has seen that."

Many options.

—You have to know what you're responsible for, and what you're not responsible for.

"At least you pronounced my name right, so we're off to a good start."

Many options.

—We'll do it one at a time, because it's much easier.

"Tell me something I don't know."

Many options.

—I can't even explain it, it's so weird.

"Tell me something I didn't already know."

—And more!

—Even if it seems foolish.

"I don't know what to tell you."

—Very mysterious. No idea.


"I don't know what I was thinking!"

Many options.

—Just smart.

"It's not what you know; it's who you know."

—And more!

—It takes two to tangle.

"You have so many houses – How do you know when it's time to move?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—You have pulls in that direction.

"We just know."

—Someone must.

—Different cultures, different things.

"How come you don't know this?"

—Someone must.

—I haven't reached that level yet ... Sometimes it's hard to remember things because there are so many things to remember.

"You don't know that?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—He who laughs last thinks slowest!

"I think I'll miss the new Star Wars."

—And more!

—At many locations.

"I'd tell you the real scoop, but you really don't want to know."

—Someone must.

—You can't be cheated out of nothing, can you?

"Are you registered to vote?"

—And more!

—Whatever the others have, we have, too.

"You're so naïve."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—I don't want to say anything more.

"Richard, you better lay low."

Many options.

—I've heard about it, but I don't know.

"I just don't think we're compatible."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—Traditionally, culturally, and your parents.

"This is a terrible intersection."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—Nothing lasts forever, huh?

"Come here, come here, there is no red light at this intersection, it is up there."

—Someone must.

—It puts a bad day in perspective.

"Too much excitement for me!"

Many options.

—My nose is itching; it must be the truth.

"Don't you know anything?"

—Someone must.

—I'm afraid I'll mislead you.

"Do you know who that is?"

—And more!

—Who wouldn't?

"Do you know where it is?"

—And more!

—I may be crazy, but I'm not stupid.

"You don't know how to get to Burlingame Avenue?"

Many options.

—There are lots of little things – You're not bad if you don't know them.

"You didn't know that?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—It wasn't special, let's put it that way.

"I would expect you to know how to take people where they're going."

Many options.

—If this wasn't hard, everyone would be rich.

"I would expect you to know that if you drive a cab here."

Many options.

—In Boston, it was the only thing you learned.

[Someone dumping your change on the counter]

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—I don't deserve that.

"I don't know what it's like and I don't want to know."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—What can we do about it?

"How do you know all this?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—I just have a memory for certain things.

"What is the greatest thing a person can know?"

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—This, too, shall pass.

"That sounds appropriate – Excellent!"

—Someone must.

—Just trying to save you a little trouble.

"This stuff is better than Beethoven, man!" [The Fifth Dimension]

—And more!

—All the old-time favorites.

"Did you write down, 'Not enough live stuff?'"

—And more!

—I really like the free exchange of ideas.

"This stuff is really getting to me – I think I've just about had enough."

—Very mysterious. No idea.

—What can you do, we mere mortals?

"Do you have enough there?" [Sarcastically]

—And more!

—I'm not going to waste my time thinking it's no good.


Many options.

—The Wizard of Ounce! I think it's very funny that "Oz" means "Ounce."
























As a Weapon of Mass Destruction
("It's devastating!")

An artist or honest worker in any field can discover and align themselves with something like a river of creativity inside themselves. When you're "on the beam," everything is easy. Everything flows and you can perceive beauty inside and around you. The part of you that perceives all this is your higher consciousness, and to perceive this inner state, you don't have to be a god. It's inside you. You can also see that this state strongly coincides with "meaning." You might call this inner condition "the true meaning of life," allowing beauty to take over. Hold that thought!

Sarcasm, especially "dark sarcasm," is an attempt to constrain you, to rob you of inner meaning, or of meaning in general, and to thereby kick your adrenaline into high gear, thereby flooding out your connection with whatever I was just talking about.

Sarcasm is all about withholding (something from you, say, "honest and open communication") and is also about "ratcheting down meaning."

For instance, let's say I was back in the first paragraph and said, "Everything is easy!" A sarcastic person might easily interject, "Yeah, everything is easy!" See what a downer that is? They're clearly withholding from you whatever's really bothering them (WITHHOLDING WARMTH) and they're not clearly supplying you with the true meaning of what they're hinting at (RATCHETING DOWN MEANING).

You could easily imagine that the sarcastic person is dwelling in some sort of labyrinth of negative emotions. They go down one path and "start talking out loud to themselves" (withholding from you what they're actually talking about, trying to steal your attention, and trying to trick you into leaping (adrenaline alight!) into their labyrinth of darkness).

At its extreme you could envision that person as a vampire trying to suck the joy out of life! Upon spotting or perceiving them, you might say things like, "The predator cannot see," "A terrible thing," or if they say "Who are you to keep me from being who I really am?" cry out, "The Opposite of a Vampire!" "Stealing happiness!" or something disarming, such as "—Well-grounded." Never argue with a vampire! Give them air and liberty. Wait five days.

Sarcasm is Anger's Ugly Cousin, and Hatred is the Bride of Jealousy. What they're jealous about is your connection with the River of Life! They can see it and can't see they're stuck in their own Emotional Center. They think their anger is important! (Say, "Is it my fault?") They think withholding meaning is important! (Say, "Double-check!") They think implied menace is important! (Say, "A terrible thing.") They think their adrenaline is important! (Say, "This is where your life is.") Give them air and liberty. Wait five days.



Argument is simply someone tricking you into one-upmanship. They say something demonstrably stupid, and you get all fired up & leap headlong into the labyrinth to set them straight. You can't set them straight. Stop letting them trick you into thinking you're better than them! They're pretending to be stupid & wear an inner crooked smile from the outset. You can see it in their eyes. It's an act! They like making you wiggle! Don't set anyone straight! Say something noncommittal, like "—Isn't that a wonderful thing?" Pour it on thick.


Playing Dead, And ...

The way people get you is by hitting you in the imagination. When someone in the peanut gallery teases you that way, the solution is to play dead, as if you don't care. Remember you were doing just fine until they came along:

"I'd tell you the real scoop, but you really don't want to know."

—Someone must.

If they can trick you into forgetting all aspects of yourself except for your anger, and into thinking that the other person is important, you have lost your birthright — What were you doing before the insult?

Actually, you don't have to say anything at all. You can simply hold your breath, sense yourself, and realize. Holding your breath is like shifting gears. It quiets your emotions, lets you return to your own life, to your own breathing, to the part of you that is always healthy and well.

WASPS say, "Much of good manners is about knowing when to pretend that what's happening isn't happening." (1.) However, what do you say to someone who is pretending what's happening isn't happening?


1. Feeley, Mrs. Falk, A Swarm of Wasps. New York, William Morrow, 1983. p. 48.


... Considering Another Person

You're not considerate of someone when you make them work.

Liking someone is liking their consciousness.

When you talk to someone,
you're not supposed to say what you think —
You're supposed to say something
that corresponds to what they are.

Getting along with someone
has nothing to do with what you believe in —
It has to do with understanding what they need.







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—And more!