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A Hypocrite.3






Mystery solved! 

That's it. 

—For now.

Unforgivable blackness. 




Last Straw — Some things are so disgusting or intrusive, you just don't want to talk about them. A preponderance of verbal attacks are Provocative Questions — Just add a question mark, and you can really make someone work.





[litmus tests & vicious circles] - Discourteous reserve or inattention - They're really making you work, taking off on surprising tangents - or cornering you - They may be attempting to frame an idea you expressed in terms of another belief system - To be inclusive, simply say, "Mystery solved!" - (They want everything out of the way - They work so fast, they never have a minute to be human) - On the other hand, maybe they're just trying to "scratch you" to see what you're made of - You can see there's a missing ingredient in some people's lives, even in certain children - a sense of playfulness, or "mind candy" - and then there are things that are not like that - sometimes they can't contain themselves - They're simply dying to tell you what's wrong with you! - just make sure you know the difference - and then you can be your own friend.

The Age of Self-Expression, ages 8-11




Exactly what someone said [or did]
... usually not very original.

The thoughts of a "bad child"
... to free your mind again.




"Are you still working on your scaloppini?"

—For now.

—Trust me.

"Don't judge me – Then you're smaller."

—Mystery solved!

—Memory retrieved leads to paradise regained.

"This explains why you can never envy another person."

—Mystery solved!

—It's timeless ... Trust yourself.

"Hello, big man!"

—Mystery solved!

—Dude, you have no idea ... Right on! ... For sure ... Like, you know what? ... No worries.

"Is this to show what a big man you are, is that it?"

—Mystery solved!

—Far be it from me to aggravate anyone.

"Is that big enough?"

—Mystery solved!

—Most people are probably paying too much.

"Brace for impact." [Pilot to passengers of US Airways Flight 1549, ditching in the Hudson River, 16 January 2009]

—That's it.

Mobbing: "There was shouting, lies, little tricks to try and undermine you, like setting demeaning tasks, changing your hours, always trying to put you down." ... Female colleagues stonewalled her, removed her name from circulation lists, hid her mail, removed paper from her desk, laughed in her face, blew raspberries at her, and told her, "You stink!"

"I Brake 4 Pussy."

—Mystery solved!

—If you wish for it long enough, you get it! ... Don't give me a ticket ... I've still got my clothes on.

["I really like wild rice."] "Wild rice is hard to digest."

—For now.

—They say they're cheaper by the dozen.


—For now.

—What about me? ... Don't be so humble ... You're not that great.

"Okay, stand!"

—That's it.

—Sit there and close your eyes.

"Last stop." [Men's urinal]

—That's it.

—We tried.

"Doesn't he look like a vice cop with that badge?"

—Mystery solved!

—It has that element.

"We've got to stop meeting like this."

—For now.

—So what's on your mind?

"You ever wake up in the middle of the night because a couple of cats are clawing each other to death outside your window? That's what it's like listening to you speak." [Abusive dialog from]

—For now.

—Nice material! ... Just hurts! ... Stage directions! ... Where the mouse lives! ... Why aren't you in Bali sitting in a café watching women? ... Why should my brother die when a goat didn't?

"You laugh annoyingly."

—For now.

—Probably with chicken fat ... You're so unfeeling, right? ... You've got ugly you'll never use ... Getting wise to that ... It turns you very brown and you can't wear clothes ... That's the river rats ... Getting manic over running away from feeling bad ... Something foolish ... It's marvelous; it's thrilling; it's mellow; it's beautiful; (Do you like me?) is the secret question ... A farmer found what he thought was a bottomless well. First he dropped a stone in, and never heard it hit bottom. Next he dropped a huge boulder in, and again, heard nothing. Finally, he found a gigantic tree stump and threw it in. Then a goat flew by and jumped into the well! As he was pondering these strange events, a herdsman came from around the other side of the hill and said, "Can you help me find my goat? I had it tied to a tree stump." ... Above heaven, God says God; Below heaven, he walks in dirt .... To be true to yourself is hard work – but it's wonderful work ... Why did the fucking cat fall out of the tree? (Because it was fucking dead!) ... Trained rats ... They've spent every bit of energy they've ever had pretending to be like other people ... Maybe I'll shit on the White House lawn and that's it ... You tend to forget how rotten kids are ... No matter what you do, they think you're a freak ... They're really frightened ... They try to be happy and they don't know how ... If a person attacks themselves, they don't have a self, and they have nothing else of any real value ... Foolish with a touch of doubt – then I'm a leaf in the wind!

"Fake! That is so fake!"

Unforgivable blackness.

—I'm not as sensitive as you.

"Isn't it your job to get this done before it needs to go out?"

—For now.

—I hope you make a lot of money!

"You've got a booger right here!" [Not actually – They're trying to "get you!"]

—That's it.

—I'm wise to you!

"If you were a gentleman, you'd back up and let me park."

—For now.

—Waste a little energy.

"Go ahead and continue not to answer." (–Arlen Specter)

Unforgivable blackness.

—That question cannot be answered in the abstract. (–John Roberts)

"That's unacceptable."

—For now.

—Kick the can!

"Think fast!"

—For now.

—Fuzakeru na! [Japanese: Stop your nonsense!]

"That was fast."

—That's it.

—Too good to be true.

"Clean your room!"

—For now.

—When you take care of things, you're taking care of yourself.

"I don't think it's your mind – I don't think there's enough room in there."

—For now.

—Makes us look busy.

"Bless this holy union in the name of the Father, the Son and Holy Ghost."

Unforgivable blackness.

—I figure if anyone would live with me, they're insane.

"May God's light shine upon you."

—That's it.

—Now let's try something daring.

"Don't worry, I'll use protection."

—That's it.

—Do you feel that's the right way to talk to someone who feels hurt?

"Are they fake?"

—For now.

—There's no need for that.

"Indy died."

—That's it.

—You never know.

"We're all gonna die soon; I will, you will, and it sure sounds like your son will."

Unforgivable blackness.

—It's like foreign to you.

"So soon?"

—That's it.

—Much more!


Unforgivable blackness.

—You seem to be doing all right.

"You can go around!"

—For now.

Comme ci, comme ça.


—Mystery solved!

C'est la vie!

"Go away."

—Mystery solved!

—I get along with everyone.

"Oh, shut up! Please shut up! I can't stand the sound of your voice!"

Unforgivable blackness.

Thank you for touching me, beautiful person ... [Speak from your belly – Sense the pit of your belly when you speak and everything changes]

"I'm glad we're not making a movie – I don't like the sound of my own voice. [Also see Self-attack]

—For now.

—Where in you is the doggie? Where in you is the duck?

"Thank God for dead soldiers!" [On a protest sign, at your son's funeral]

Unforgivable blackness.

—People are imprisoned by their thoughts ... That's what they say about those missionaries ... They throw money around ... Don't even pay attention to that ... It has nothing to do with this ... Maybe somewhere else.

"That won't work with the people I know. They'll just look at you and say you're g@y."

Unforgivable blackness.

—It's much different.

"Some cushy job you have."

Unforgivable blackness.

—Sometimes I have that.

"I know what you're up to – I know what you're thinking, and I want you to stop it right now!"

—That's it.

—I'm sure you can see it.

"Richard, you finally got a calculator."

—For now.

—It's like people-proof.

"There's something on my screen I want you to see." [A demure pinup]

—Mystery solved!

—You need that.


—That's it.

—Just don't say Niagara Falls.

[Instant Message with nothing but Smiley faces]

Unforgivable blackness.

—No, no, ... Stick to black! [They're death merchants; they're dead and they treat people as if they're dead]

"Do you want me to leave the door open?"

—Mystery solved!

—Is that a test?

"Baseball tickets yet?"

—Mystery solved!

—I don't know about that.

"There you go."

—That's it.

—Here I am.

"There you go." [Disparagingly]

—That's it.

—An eye-opener.

"Don't let it go to your head."

—Mystery solved!

—I don't want to ruin it.

"There you go – the first one-liner of the hour."

—That's it.

—Don't change horses in midstream!

"Well, I'll let you go."

—That's it.

—For now.

["She's our stealth neighbor."] "Oh, she just likes to take care of her kids and mind her own business – That's pretty nice if you ask me."

—Mystery solved!

—Thanks a lot for telling me.

"Matt, Matt, you don't even – You're glib. You don't even know what Ritalin is. If you start talking about chemical imbalance, you have to evaluate and read the research papers on how they come up with these theories. Matt, O.K.? That's what I've done." (–Tom Cruise)

—That's it.

—I think I'll learn to say that.

"She doesn't understand the history of psychiatry in the same way you don't understand it, Matt. And to talk about it in a way of saying, 'Well, isn't it O.K.?' and being reasonable about it when you don't know and I do, I think that you should be a little bit responsible in knowing what it is." (–Tom Cruise)

—For now.

—Does that bring up anything?

[A face all full of mistrust and reason]

Unforgivable blackness.

—Good time for a vacation!

"I'm interested in what's real – not ideas."

Unforgivable blackness.

—Maybe it's helpful in understanding yourself.

"How come no one's interested in being friendly to you?"

Unforgivable blackness.

—It's handy, in case you didn't know.

"I'm not interested anymore."

Unforgivable blackness.

—You can't smoke grapefruit.

"That's okay – It's not for you anyway."

Unforgivable blackness.

—Hopeless and helpless, like a baby.

"Is that okay?" [Someone shortchanging you]

—Mystery solved!

—You do the best you can with what you have, right?

"That's okay." [Not interested in even touching your business card]

—Mystery solved!

—I'm trying to do things I never did before.

"Do you feel okay?" [Tilting their head]

—For now.

—If you want to succeed in business, do nothing.

"Okay, I'll keep my mouth shut."

Unforgivable blackness.

—Like a French landlord.

["How are you doing?" "Okay."] "Just okay?"

—Mystery solved!

—Just lower your expectations.

"Is everything okay?"

—That's it.

—Everything's fine, we have nothing to worry about.

"Are you okay?"

—Mystery solved!

—Hard to find out, isn't it?

"David said, 'Ask Richard! Richard knows everything.'"

—For now.

—We don't want anything fancy, right?

"Looks aren't everything."

—For now.

—In the jungle, why bother?

"Do I have to explain everything?"

—That's it.

—I'm tired of green.

"You know everything, don't you?"

Unforgivable blackness.

—A fish is the sign of the fisherman.

"Don't you know everything?"

—For now.

—It's better to be a moron who knows you're a moron than to think you're smart.

"I'm so sorry your daughter has AIDS."

—That's it.

—It's no picnic.

"Are you upset?"

—That's it.

—Someday – We don't know.

"My pizza is gone!"

—That's it.

—Gone forever.

"Don't give away the farm."

—For now.

—Are you a handicapped tomato?

[Someone leaving you suspended mid-conversation]

Unforgivable blackness.

—Well, there you go.

[Someone suddenly getting serious on you]

Unforgivable blackness.

—Can't miss.

"What about people who blow themselves up to go to heaven?"

—For now.

—It wasn't everything ... That's at least real ... You don't know what kind of families they had.

"I just think people should think for themselves."

—Mystery solved!

—Why can't people help each other?

"Richard, will you please say the grace?"

—Mystery solved!

—(1) My words rise up, my soul remains below. Words without a soul never to heaven go. (–William Shakespeare, Hamlet, Act III, Scene 3) ... (2) Pick up the white man's burden: the fear of those you guard, the hatred of those you serve ... (3) In a world full of wolves, be wise as a serpent, and humble as a dove ... (4) Protect us from the little foxes, because our minds have little grapes ... (5) Thanks, dirt! You made my lunch ... (6) Lord, help me to be the person my dog thinks I am ... (7) I'm still here, and I still need money.

"Let us bow our heads for a moment in prayer."

—That's it.

—That's what all the smart people do.

[Reverent prayer]

Unforgivable blackness.

—No one cries out, "Where were YOU in the war?"

["Good night."] "Good-bye."

—For now.

—It hurts.

"Good-bye, now!" [From behind you – as you're leaving a store]

—Mystery solved!

—And I'm not coming back!

"It's okay – You're walking away from money."

—For now.

—Nobody's perfect.

"Some has-been."

—For now.

—The prodigal son ... For many years.



























As follows

CODE WORDS: 4, annoyingly, badge, big, bogus, booger, brace, calculator, clawing, cushy, daughter, deeply, died, digest, disaster, door, envy, everything, fake, farm, fast, finally, g@y, gentleman, ghost, glib, go, gone, good-bye, grace, [gushing], has-been, imbalance, impact, indeed, interested, likes, [mistrust], okay, prayer, [prayer], protection, psychiatry, reasonable, responsible, room, scaloppini, screen, [serious], shine, smaller, [Smiley], soldiers, soon, stop, [suspended], themselves, they'll, tickets, tweet, unacceptable, upset, voice



—That's it.